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The Art of Relationships

One of my pastors recently said something so profound that I can’t stop thinking about it. He said: “Marriage is an art, not a science.” – Gui Kerr It seemed simple on the surface but as I thought more about it, I began to see the depth of what he meant.   No one has […]

On Marriage, Expectation and Dirty Sinks

I haven’t written much about marriage in the last 6 months. Honestly, I’m not always sure what’s appropriate to share or how soon after something happens. So I err on the side of caution. But there are great things happening in my marriage. I’m learning a lot about what it means to be a man. […]

The Art of Talking Without Talking

There are fathers, fathers of girls and fathers of 3 girls. I am none of those. My friend Dustin Valencia is the most impressive of those. He wouldn’t leave his girls in my care but since I am a writer, he asked me to come over and baby sit his blog while he’s out gallivanting […]

Mistaken Identity

Today I’m excited to share a story from one of my favorites. I met Tracee on Twitter last year and I realized that we are kindred spirits. We’re both passionate about communication, relationships and dancing like nobody’s watching! She’s sharing her story about having an unchanging identity. I loved it and I hope you will […]

Where Are All The Trophy Husbands?

A few weeks ago on Twitter I wrote, “I can’t wait to get married so I can put ‘Trophy Husband‘ on my profile.” It got a ton of response. Just this week I thought about it again and it made me ask the question, “Where are all the trophy husbands?” In just over 2 months, […]

The Messy, Beautiful Church

One of my guilty pleasures back in the day was the MTV show, The Real World. Before reality TV was basically staged like it is today, this show gave us the fly-on-the-wall look into the lives of real, every day people paired together with complete strangers. It was one of the greatest social experiments of […]

I’ve Got This Friend

Everyone loves a good love story. I figured it was time to share mine. After 4 long years of sitting, waiting, wishing, I found the most incredible woman I’ve ever met.

Is Blood Really Thicker Than Water?

Like most people, I’ve always assumed that the saying “blood is thicker than water” meant that family comes before friends. I never really thought about what the water meant. I figured it was a way to refer to anyone outside of your family. But in the context of Biblical covenant relationships, this phrase doesn’t seem […]

The Divorce Experts

My marriage ended in divorce. Although I’ve only been married once, it wasn’t my first divorce. I’ve been doing it since I was very young. I grew up believing that if you don’t like something, you just move on to the next thing. I dated a lot of girls in high school and college. I […]

The Doctrine of Agreement

I’ll be the first one to admit that theology can be confusing, overwhelming even. Since the time I started studying theology in 2002, I’ve changed my position more times than I can count. That seems pretty wishy washy for the study a God who never changes, huh? I have held each of my theological positions […]