404 Identity | Tony J. Alicea

What Does It Mean To Find Your Identity In Christ?

i∙den∙ti∙ty [ahy-den-ti-tee] the state or fact of remaining the same one, as under varying aspects or conditions Who am I? It’s a question that has been asked since the beginning of time. Traditionally, we’ve found the answer in one place…what we do. If I write, then I’m a writer. If I work in an office, […]

Daddy Issues: Nature, Nurture and Identity

Are we shaped by nature or nurture? Rather than the somewhat naive either or debate, I believe both play a vital role in shaping who we are. And more than anyone else, fathers are the predominate influence in determining our identity. My parents divorced when I was very young so I didn’t spend much time […]

Daddy Issues: 3 Foundations of a Father

What was your relationship like with your father? That’s the first question I ask when dealing with issues of fear. Some immediately squirm. Others frown and cross their arms. Some smile and say that the relationship was great. But very few know the full impact of this relationship to their lives. Once you understand what […]

Getting To Know Uncle H

I’ve never been to a family reunion but I’ve talked to others who have. Some families are loud and crazy while others are conservative and formal. However, the one common thread in all the stories has to do with the weird uncle. The one everyone either ignores or avoids. In some stories the uncle is […]

Our Story Is Not Our Identity

This is a guest post by Chris Lautsbaugh. If you are interested in guest posting, you can find out more about it here. Our family has recently completed a journey to adopt and immigrate our son from South Africa. This process took over four years and included custody, name changes, countless documents, and finally culminated […]

How My Heritage Helped Me Understand My Righteousness

I am a third-generation Puerto Rican, born in New York. I would consider myself a New Yorican if it weren’t for the fact that I moved away when I was 3 years old. Most days I feel proud of my heritage. Other days I feel like an all-American gringo. My parents divorced when I was […]

Why You Don’t Need More Self-Esteem

The topic of self-esteem has gone through many changes in the world of psychology. Traditionally it was thought that you must increase low self-esteem. This was done in a variety of ways including positive thinking and self-motivation methods. In recent years though, even that seems to be changing as people realize that trying to like […]

Labels Lie

I’ve been labeled a lot of things in my life. Some good. Some not so good. Some by others. Some by myself. And you know what? All of them fall short of describing me. I understand why people use labels. It’s an easy way to compartmentalize complexity. Multifaceted subjects take effort to fully understand. Labels […]

A Rose By Any Other Name…

If you haven’t heard, I am getting married this weekend! That said, I thought the perfect way to leave you all before the big day is with a guest post from my wife-to-be. When she sent this to me, I was blown away. I hope you love it as much as I do. On October […]

Remember My Name

When I first visited my church, I met a guy who could not remember my name. I introduced myself to him no less than 5 times and every time he gave me the look. The one that says, “I know we’ve met but I still can’t remember your name”. I took it in stride but if […]