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Present Tense Struggles

Why is it so hard to share our junk when we’re in the middle of it? This week I got real and shared something I’m currently dealing with. Not something I’ve already gotten through. It is something I’m dead smack in the middle of dealing with. And it was terrifying. But you know what? After […]

On Fear, Anxiety and Book Proposals

This week I began writing my first book proposal. The concept of this book came to me about 5 years ago but there was one reason that it’s taken me this long to get started. Fear. In those 5 years I gave myself plenty of time to feel anxious about this project. What if what […]

Daddy Issues: A Story Of Rejection

Can rejection ever be a good thing? I never thought it could but experience has taught me differently. There is a direct correlation to a lack of protection from our fathers and a fear of rejection. In my last post, I explained how fathers are intended to teach us to take risks. When we don’t feel […]

Daddy Issues: A Series

“Fathers be good to your daughters, daughters will love like you do.” – John Mayer When we think of “daddy issues” we’re typically referring to what’s behind the attention-seeking, flirtatious, promiscuous, overly emotional woman. In a sense there is truth to this generalization but daddy issues aren’t only reserved for women or even these specific […]

How To Live A Better Story

I love telling stories. When I read books, I read them out loud just to practice. Storytelling is an art and with an unskilled storyteller, a great story can turn into a boring one. Ironically, telling a good story isn’t the same as living a good story. Even great storytellers can live boring lives. In the […]

The Good Thing about Fear, Frustration and Failure

From Tony: Darrell has become a personal friend since moving down to plant a church here in south Florida. I’m excited to share this post from him today. If you’re interested in guest posting, you can find out more here. *** In the past four months of my life I got married, moved across the […]

On Failure and Hope

There’s a video on YouTube of a dad recording a little boy after riding his bike for the first time. The boy is so excited he can barely get his words out to describe how he feels. His dad encourages him to share some wisdom with others and the boy proceeds to give one of […]

The Anti-Resolution

If you’re like me, you have probably already OD’d on hearing about New Year’s Resolutions or the One Word of the year. I’m pretty sure I read my body weight in blog posts about these subjects. It’s all good and very ambitious. But what would it look like to have an anti-resolution for the year? […]

Rejecting Safe Faith

A few years ago I went to the Empire State Building. My sister and I, both the polar opposite of trapeze artists, decided to go out to the observation deck on the 86th floor. Aside from the fact that it was freezing up there, the view was paralyzing. On that 360 degree observation deck, the […]

Life Without Rules

I’ve never been rebellious in my life. I’ve never been the one to question the status quo. I like rules. Obedience always came naturally to me. But as I mature in my faith, I’m seeing that God isn’t interested in us blindly following rules. So I started asking some dangerous questions: What if we could […]