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Daddy Issues: Nature, Nurture and Identity

Are we shaped by nature or nurture? Rather than the somewhat naive either or debate, I believe both play a vital role in shaping who we are. And more than anyone else, fathers are the predominate influence in determining our identity. My parents divorced when I was very young so I didn’t spend much time […]

Daddy Issues: A Story Of Rejection

Can rejection ever be a good thing? I never thought it could but experience has taught me differently. There is a direct correlation to a lack of protection from our fathers and a fear of rejection. In my last post, I explained how fathers are intended to teach us to take risks. When we don’t feel […]

Daddy Issues: Protection

I’ve never been in a fight. Well technically that’s not true. I was in two fights that both consisted of wild swinging with not a single blow landed by either side. To this day it’s safe to say that I’m a lover and not much of a fighter. My dad didn’t teach me to fight…or […]

Daddy Issues: Provision

The first foundation a father provides is provision. The ability to provide for his family is what brings life to a father and in turn brings life to his family. But provision is more than just bringing home the bacon. I recently read a great article in Psychology Today that succinctly illustrates the perils of associating […]

Daddy Issues: 3 Foundations of a Father

What was your relationship like with your father? That’s the first question I ask when dealing with issues of fear. Some immediately squirm. Others frown and cross their arms. Some smile and say that the relationship was great. But very few know the full impact of this relationship to their lives. Once you understand what […]

Daddy Issues: A Series

“Fathers be good to your daughters, daughters will love like you do.” – John Mayer When we think of “daddy issues” we’re typically referring to what’s behind the attention-seeking, flirtatious, promiscuous, overly emotional woman. In a sense there is truth to this generalization but daddy issues aren’t only reserved for women or even these specific […]

What Garbage Juice Taught Me About Humility

“They won’t take it if it’s overflowing. You need to move the trash to the other dumpster.” I stared down at the text message on my phone in a brief moment of incredulity. I realized that I was going to have to go into the dumpster and pull out trash bags, then haul them across the […]

Praying Like An Orphan

From Tony: This is a story from my friend Jason, who is learning a lot after recently adopting a beautiful boy from Japan. If you are interested in submitting a guest post, you can find out more here. Driving around to another appointment, my son was ecstatic that we had been to Wal-Mart and found […]

How Our Name Is Tied To Our Destiny

Do you ever read the Bible and get caught up in theological terms?  Predestination and election are two terms that I’ve wrestled with for a few years. When I try to wrap my head around these concepts, I never feel like I fully have it figured out. And rightly so because it is a beautiful […]

More Of You Means More Of Me

The other day in worship my friend Andrew began to sing a refrain that most of us are pretty familiar with. “More of you and less of me, Jesus“. The problem was that he changed it up and sang out “More of you means more of me. More of you means the real me.” It […]