404 July, 2012 | Tony J. Alicea

Archives for July 2012

Love The Sinner, Hate The Sin?

Have you ever said this phrase? I know I have. On the surface it sounds nice but it’s not as loving as we might think. The more I think about it, the more I believe that Ghandi got this one wrong. I’m sure his heart was in the right place but bumpersticker theology too often […]

Shades of Gray: Social Drinking

Today I’m going after what has been a hot topic in Christianity for years. Social drinking. But I’m not going to tell you what you should do about it. I’m going to tell you a story. I’ve noticed that when gray areas are discussed, most people are looking to be told what to do. Many […]

On Fear, Anxiety and Book Proposals

This week I began writing my first book proposal. The concept of this book came to me about 5 years ago but there was one reason that it’s taken me this long to get started. Fear. In those 5 years I gave myself plenty of time to feel anxious about this project. What if what […]

Introducing: Shades of Gray

I’m excited to announce my new column in Prodigal Magazine! It’s called Shades of Gray. I think you’re going to like it. I write about learning to make decisions in the gray areas of life. I’m not talking about taking a gray area and changing it to black and white, I talk about navigating through these […]

What Does It Mean To Find Your Identity In Christ?

i∙den∙ti∙ty [ahy-den-ti-tee] the state or fact of remaining the same one, as under varying aspects or conditions Who am I? It’s a question that has been asked since the beginning of time. Traditionally, we’ve found the answer in one place…what we do. If I write, then I’m a writer. If I work in an office, […]

Can You Really Forgive And Forget?

Six years ago my then-wife said to me the most devastating words you can say to your spouse: “I don’t love you anymore.” A year later I received papers in the mail and at 28 years old, I was divorced. I was broken beyond anything I had ever experienced. Over the next couple of years I […]

How To Apologize Well

“Forgiveness is more than saying sorry.” – Anna Faris in Just Friends Have you ever been on the receiving end of a terrible apology? I have plenty of times. The other person may as well have saved their breath. Nobody wants an apology given under obligation. But the chances are that you’ve given some pretty […]