A friend of mine is pregnant. I mean really pregnant. Like, feet swollen to twice their normal size and assigned to bed rest by her doctor, pregnant. Every time we speak she says the same thing. I just want this baby to come already!
I can’t possibly understand what she’s going through. I am confident that if you needed further proof to believe that women can sustain pain long term better than men, just look at pregnancy. I would have tapped out in the first trimester. I HATE throwing up!
I’m praying that this process is over for her soon. And yet at the same time, I know that it can’t be over too soon. The baby has to come to full term before she’s ready to enter into this world. If she were born as soon as the pain began, she wouldn’t have survived.
Enlarged In The Waiting
Even amidst morning sickness, discomfort, swelling, back pain and everything else associated with pregnancy, my friend knows that a miracle is being formed inside of her.
This is her second child and I know she takes comfort in the fact that as soon as her baby comes, she will have forgotten about all the struggles of the past 9 months. The miracle of childbirth will outweigh all of the pain and discomfort of the process.
This what I have to remember in my own life.
Everything of purpose has a process. Nothing of significance happens overnight. The greater the purpose, the more intense the process.
The Message translates Romans 8:24-25 like this:
That is why waiting does not diminish us, any more than waiting diminishes a pregnant mother. We are enlarged in the waiting. We, of course, don’t see what is enlarging us. But the longer we wait, the larger we become, and the more joyful our expectancy.
Waiting is part of the process. When things seem to get more difficult in the waiting, I know that it means that something huge is being formed inside of me.
There is a temptation to induce at first signs of struggle. Too many times I interpret struggle as an indication that I’m doing something wrong. However the more difficult the situation, the more I can learn from it.
Every difficulty is an opportunity to form endurance and character. These two traits produce the key to seeing the process through to the end. They produce hope. And hope does not put us to shame (Rom. 5:3-5).
If I give up at the first signs of struggle, the very thing that is forming inside of me will be aborted. Instead of giving birth to life, I give birth to disappointment.
But as I persevere and the trials get bigger, I am enlarged in the waiting. Just like my friend, I know that what is forming in me will be miraculous.
When I focus on the pain, I lose sight of what is coming. But when I embrace the process, my waiting becomes expectant…joyfully expectant.
When my friend sees her baby for the first time, I know she’ll be reassured that all the pain was worth it.
It doesn’t make waiting shorter, but a change in perspective will shift it from frustration to expectancy.
What are you waiting for?
Are you in need of a perspective shift right now?