The week before my wedding I was sitting at my work desk. I was busy handling last minute preparations for my week away from the office. Since my back is to the door, I have a rear-view mirror so I don’t get scared out of my shoes when people walk up behind me.
I spun around as he strolled up to my desk. He covered the talking end of his cell phone and whispered:
He winked at my as he smiled and shook my hand. Then he walked away.
He wasn’t the only one. As others in the building offered their sentiments on my impending marriage, many of them were cast in a negative or sarcastic light. Most of the time I didn’t even know what to say.
My last day of work before the wedding I was in the restroom, getting chatted up by another manager. Not only did he breach proper male bathroom etiquette, but his last words before walking out stunned me:
“There’s still time to get out.”
No smile here. He was dead serious.
Not a month earlier, I was eating a piece of cake celebrating his wedding.
Turning It Around
There are few decisions in my life that I have been absolutely sure about. I can’t even say that I was absolutely sure about accepting Jesus Christ as my personal savior when I was 9 years old. But I can say that I was absolutely sure about marrying Katie.
There are so many marriages that are broken or hanging on by a thread. There is an incredible amount of disillusionment about the current state of matrimony in our society. It clearly is not held with the same esteem that it once was.
But I see my marriage as so much bigger than living happily ever after with the woman of my dreams. I see my marriage as a beacon of hope for others. I see what God is doing in us as something that will bring life to a single waiting for love to be awakened and restoration to the brokenhearted trying to pick up the pieces.
I don’t say this arrogantly. I say this because I believe God would do it through two people who have been broken enough in relationships that they KNOW that only He can sustain them. Two humble hearts that know they can do nothing apart from Christ’s love and redemption.
I know there are a lot of people who may think we’re naïve to think that our marriage is going to be so amazing. Some doubt it outright while others smile at us while thinking more realistic thoughts. They may say to themselves, “I really hope that’s true, but once you face the reality of how hard marriage is, you might not be singing the same tune.”
The good news is that we don’t have anything to prove other than God’s faithfulness. Even more than we want it, He wants it. It was His idea, after all.
As he perfects that work in us, my heart is to see hope restored to the holy covenant of marriage. My heart is to see a generation of lovers that raise children in two parent homes. My prayer is that a new wave of marriages will be strong and healthy as they encourage those coming after them to believe that marriage is one of most precious gifts God has given us.
Call me naïve but I’m expectant for a day when new marriages aren’t made fun of, they are celebrated. When sentiments go from condolences to congratulations.