404 Note To Self: Die To Self

Note To Self: Die To Self

I am selfish. No matter how many selfless acts I perform, at the core of who I am is a selfish person. This can be deceptive because on the suface, it can appear that I am very selfless and giving.

Note To Self: Die To Self

I recently wrote this note and put it next to my computer. Every morning when I wake up, I want to see this. I want to be reminded that the only way to fully live in Christ is to be dead to myself.

In less than 7 weeks I will be a married man. The true test of dying to myself is how I interact with my wife. In marriage, there’s no hiding from my selfish ways. I can’t put on a humble act for awhile and then come home and be a different person. I have to die daily…all day.

I’m confident that there will be days that I don’t measure up. I know I can’t be a great husband in my own strength. I’ll run out of gas pretty quickly. But if I die to my selfish ways every day and live in the the power of Christ, He can teach me how it’s done.

Will a post-it note give me the strength to die to myself daily? Probably not. But if I’m reminded to look to Christ every morning, then that’s a good start.

What would you write on your post-it note?


  1. Shelia Duke says:

    Why it seems to be a constant struggle to pay the bills. Oh, I could also just write β€œsmile” because I’m not a morning person. Mostly because I was trying to be cool.
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  2. I love that passage. You belong to Jesus. I plan to keep the note there until I live it out every single day. So even if I wrote myself a post-it note, it’s very possible I wouldn’t be able to read it anyway.

    • Even when I read it, I still tend to forget it. It’s one of those things I just need to have written on my heart. I guess the post-it is my attempt to get one step closer to that.

      Thanks for stopping by, Roxie.

  3. Great post! This is my first visit to your blog and I love it! πŸ™‚ God has been showing me that I need to stop trying harder to die to self. It’s not about me trying harder, because what that really means is I am in His way. It’s about surrendering more. I love the image of free falling into His arms, completely letting go of my own strength. Easier said than done, I know…

    Congratulations on your coming wedding! Have you read the Five Love Languages?

  4. It’s a toss-up for me between “love others” and “you are NOT God”. Because I struggle with seeing other people through God’s eyes and because I want to plan everything and know everything that God has planned. Oh, I could also just write “smile” because I’m not a morning person. πŸ™‚
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    • Haha! I hear you. I’m actually a morning person. Not one of those chipper “rise & shine” type of morning people. I just like to get up early and I’m most effective in the morning rather than the evening.

  5. A post it note? Possibly, but you will have greater success with your group of trusted married couples that (I hope) y’all are going to be a part of. πŸ™‚

    My post-it note says: You Matter. 1 Timothy 4:12

    It’s where everybody sees it as they walk by, just before going to school/etc.
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    • I agree Ben. I have a lot of friends that are couples but I haven’t had much of a chance to get very close to them while I was single. I’m looking forward to developing those relationships as a couple.

      I love that verse and especially that you have it up since you teach the middle schoolers.

  6. Tony “Die to self” has been a mantra of mine for a very long time. It is the only way that you can have a relationship with your spouse, children, co-workers, and fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. We can’t let our egos and pride get in the way. The Bible says we have to think of others before ourselves. It’s not about our agendas, or our wants, but think of others needs firsts. It doesn’t mean we neglect our needs, but it does mean we should look to serve others before we serve ourselves. God Bless.
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  7. Tony, another great post. I’m borrowing your idea and writing a note to myself too.
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  8. Yes, I needed to read this today!

    I’m married and it’s a great example, one that I’ve never thought of.

    I’m gonna make me a sticky note with that on it also. πŸ™‚
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  9. Dude, dealing with selfishness was one of the first (and longest) lessons I’ve learned as a married man and father. I can’t afford to be selfish.

    My post it note would say “Do your chores frequently and w/ a smile.”
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  10. Tony, I have to say ‘wow’ to your excellent handwriting. Mine looks terrible. So even if I wrote myself a post-it note, it’s very possible I wouldn’t be able to read it anyway. Could you write mine for me? πŸ™‚ I think mine would say, “make today count” and I can think of dozens of applications almost instantly. Thanks man–good exercise.
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    • You have doctor’s handwriting, huh? I actually completely ripped off my best friend’s handwriting from 7th grade. I loved it and copied it for years until I was able to create my own version of it.

      I like your post-it note. Now go do it! πŸ™‚

  11. mine would be “wake up”

    and probably something like “learning to love someone is different than learning to live with them” – the 2nd being much harder πŸ™‚
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    • I know what you mean. I already found out that Katie puts the toilet paper roll on the wrong way (everyone knows you pull from the top and not the bottom).

      Maybe I can put your post-it right above the TP. πŸ™‚

  12. “All things are permissible, but not all things are beneficial” (1 Cor 10:23)

    Attached to my refrigerator. :o)

    Underlying that message, though is…Do I love and rely on food more that I love and rely on God?

    This can be translated to so many other things, like…busyness, substance, technology, etc. Is the thing that drives me to it too big for God to handle? This thing…He permits it as a free will choice…but does it bring me closer to Him? Or drive a wedge between?
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  13. Honestly, I would probably write the exact same thing (and may just steal your idea and actually write it down and post it next to my alarm clock), but for a slightly different reason.

    I need to be reminded that this life isn’t really mine. It’s His. I struggle sometimes with His timing – why I’m 31 and still single. Why I’ve worked a crappy PT job for 2 years and haven’t been able to find a decent job I’m more than qualified for. Why it seems to be a constant struggle to pay the bills. Left to myself, this would not have been my life. But that’s the point – it’s not mine. It’s His. And I need that reminder every day.
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    • Move to south Florida and we’ll start a business together! I have many ideas!

      Then you could come to an awesome church. Not only is Holy Spirit thick in our community and Jesus is at the helm…but there are also TONS of beautiful single ladies!

      Just a thought. πŸ™‚

  14. I have done the post it note thing for years. I many times put verses but sometimes other reminders and right now for me it is – He must increase and I must decrease.
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  15. “Take a shower.”

    You see, I usually wake up and start working on a project and forget to shower. πŸ˜‰

    (Great post, Tony.)
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  16. There’s your super cool handwriting again! πŸ™‚

    Did you ever watch the Grey’s Anatomy episode where Meredith and McDreamy got married on a post-it note? Probably not, but this reminded me of that.

    When I first got married, I had this sudden realization that I had never understood the true meaning of forgiveness. Day in day out you have to forgive your spouse even the simplest of offenses, otherwise they tend to build up. And, even though I don’t consider myself one to “count offensese”-they still come up! So, my post-it note should say “Forgive Daily”, right under “Ask for Forgiveness Daily”.
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    • I did watch Grey’s for awhile but I don’t remember that. Then again, I have a terrible memory. Or at least a VERY selective one.

      I have a feeling I’m going to be using your post-it it note on forgiveness very soon and very often.

      I appreciate you, Keri. You always share great wisdom here.

  17. I no Longer Live, HE LIVES IN ME.

    This would remind me not to seek my own agenda for the day but HIS! and if i do seek out my own agenda…it will because the end result will be gloryfing HIM!
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  18. My post-it would say:
    Be excited only about his glory and nothing else.

    Congrats on soon being a married man!
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  19. Congrats on the approaching wedding!

    My post it note would remind me to pray for God’s will to happen everyday, and for me to not get in the way.
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  20. “Make the most of EVERY opportunity!”

    Congrats on the upcoming wedding.
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  21. Great reminder. Be warned, soon enough you’ll need something to clean you ass with and the only thing available is that post it note. You’ll use it, clean it and then put it back and everytime you see it now, it will be reminded that dying daily is like being crapped on, but you always feel so much better after it… I think.
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  22. Only thing about sticky notes is that they get unsticky…kind of like our resolve to die to self…Thank God His mercies are new every morning.
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  23. Jeremy Walker says:

    Tony, my friend,

    I’m learning so much from you, bro!

    I’ve had a piece of paper taped to the monitor of my computer for a few years now bearing some words I heard from a Louie Giglio sermon once….


    I’m praying for you and Katie today…I know you guys have an awesome future ahead!

  24. I’d write, “Hold on for the Blessing” a la Genesis 32 when Jacob wrestled the angel and didn’t let go until he got a blessing.

    When things get tough, I don’t want to let go but want to hold on until I see the reward/blessing.
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  25. I’ve had a note with the verses from Phil 4: 11-13 taped to my bathroom mirror for 8 years. I plan to keep the note there until I live it out every single day.

  26. Great reminder today!
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  27. Note to self: Your work is not who you are. You belong to Jesus.
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  28. “Be changed. Make a Difference.” Good point today Tony.
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  29. I’d put something like this on my post-it note: “Remember it’s not about you.”

    I can relate about the selfishness. I make things about me all the time– in every area of my life. That is certainly an area I need to surrender to Him daily.
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    • Good words, man. It’s something that I need to remember every day. Sometimes I’ll do really well for awhile and next thing you know, it’s all about me again. I forget it’s a daily death.

  30. I have “die daily” written on my in my office right now. To be honest, if I ever get another tat that is what I would get on my wrist.
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