The heart fascinates me. I love people. I love getting to know the story of another. I am a big fan of big crowds, and nights filled with intertwined conversations.
We are fast becoming a culture that craves relationships and community, but actually gives little time to develop either one. We are a culture that thrives on status. The success of being known is measured by how many followers we have on Twitter or Facebook. If people want to get to know us, we have links we can pass on to them.
Even the course of questioning is changing rapidly when meeting someone face to face. Our culture has three basic questions we ask to figure out someone’s identity. We ask the questions of “What do you do? Where do you live? What school did you go to?” Now we have shifted into “Are you on Twitter? Do you have a blog? Can I find you on Facebook?”
We need people to fit into a category or box of identity. How we answer these questions creates the façade of understanding someone else.
It seems like in the era of social media, there are so many places to read what people are “about.” Most people seem to have an “about me” page. Listed on this page are hobbies, movies, employment, education, and at least one sentence that describe the person. All these things we attribute as the identity of someone.
Our “about me” changes all the time. There are some things that stay consistent, (I will always love to sky dive and bungee jump), but the other stuff changes. My “about me” does not define who I am.
The truth about our identity is that it is never changing. Identity remains factual no matter what. My identity has been defined for me by the one who died for me.
Our identities in him are unchanging because he is unchanging.
In Christ, I am enough. If you or I were the only people on earth, Christ would still have died for us. I am his beloved. We are owned as his sons and daughters. I am unconditionally loved. I am saved. I am forgiven. He sees me as worth it. This never changes.
What if we began to see people through this lens of identity? What if we began to view ourselves under this definition of identity? Can you image how relationships would change?
Everyone is uniquely made and worth getting to know. Our identities never change. I desire for us to start understanding and seeing people the way he does. The world would be a very different place if we saw people as beloved, enough, and worth it.
In what ways can you start to get to know people past what they are “about?”
Tracee is a speaker and writer with a master’s in Professional Counseling. She cares deeply about the heart and story of other people. When it comes to areas of passion, Tracee enjoys speaking on topics including: leadership development, cultivating character, second mile living, identity in Christ, and carrying the weight of your influence well. Her heart is all about empowering others to believe different and live different. She blogs at TraceePersiko.com and you can find her on Twitter here.