Life has changed quite a bit for me in this past month. My girlfriend moved down to Florida to be near me. My girlfriend became my fiancé. We’re planning a wedding in two months. We started training for this in December. It wasn’t until this past week that I realized that life is moving to a whole new beat but I haven’t learned the song yet.
Up to this point, I had a LOT of free time to myself. A big part of my every day life was reading and writing blogs. Spending time on social media. Hanging out with friends a few times a week. Watching movies. Keeping up with a handful of TV shows online. Playing a few rounds of Black Ops on my Playstation 3. Oh the life of a 30-something bachelor.
If you’ve read any of my more recent posts, you know that I’m a big proponent of rhythm. I’m not a fan of the idea of balance. So with all these new things in my life, it would be pretty hypocritical if I tried to balance them all with everything I had already been doing.
Different rhythms call for different focus. My focus right now is my relationship. I’m preparing for the rhythm of marriage. Because of that, some of my other activities will have to take a back seat to my committments. It’s not enough to know these concepts and write about them; if I can’t live them they are worthless.
I’ve decided to pull back a little from my blog. I’m not sure exactly how much yet, but I won’t be writing 3 posts every week. Not for awhile anyway. I’ll also be less frequently commenting on your blogs. I’ll still be reading most of them, but I refuse to leave the “Good post!” comments. If I’m not contributing to the conversation, I won’t comment.
Many other things in my life are being scaled back as well. The most important element of my life is creating a healthy foundation for my marriage. As much as I love writing and the blogging community, it just doesn’t come close.
It will probably be a few weeks before I find out exactly what this looks like. I just wanted to share with my regular readers that you may see some changes in consistency coming. You may not see me around as frequently online. But I’m here. I hope you’ll stick around because I have a metric TON of unfinished ideas that I will release at some point.
At the very least, you can expect one post per week.
This is my first step in finding rhythm in all of these changes. I’ve never been more excited to enter into a new season. It’s something for which I’ve been praying for a very long time. It’s everything I wanted and more. Now it’s time to live like I appreciate it.
How do you find a new rhythm in your life (e.g. new relationship, baby, job)?